most of us can become more calm than we are today..calm people are happier and help others to be more calm..you probably have been grateful to someone else who was calm when you were in a crisis..some ideas include nutrition, exercise, meditation, enjoying solitude or even aromatherapy..try whichever of these ideas sound good to you, and you may find yourself a calmer, happier person..you can do it, so why not give it a go!
be kind to yourself..
being calm begins with being self-loving (which does not mean being self-absorbed).. it's all too commonplace for us to take a negative tone with ourselves and to be our own unkindest critic..calm cant settle when you feel nothing but self-criticism, self-loathing and a lack of self-trust if these are your main inner feelings, then you're too busy running internal self-deprecating chatter for calm to descend!
frequently that it is
okay to love and trust
with yourself and with
others.. being unable to forgive compels you to discontent and internal war..holding old grudges, being bitter and fueling constant anger create an inner turmoil that chains you to reliving past hurts..do you really enjoy lugging that ball and chain around? worst still, your health is impacted by long-lived grievances and your blood pressure, heart rate, physical and spiritual health will be suffering..
be patient.. patience is the begetter of calm..impatience is the source of agitation and turbulence..impatience
says "I want it NOW" and when "it" doesn't appear now, you're liable to lose your temper and let the blood pressure rise..impatience is often linked to unreasonable expectations about the world and other people (you expect too much of both yourself and of other people) and is often linked to perfectionism, which allows of no space to make errors or slow down..a calm person, on the other hand, is fully aware that errors occur sometimes and that speeding things up is liable to bring on errors, not alleviate them..
think about things
before you start
worrying.. most of the
time, it is okay to not worry..most of the time the news, the rumors, the negativity, the volatility, the insane highs and lows of human systems are just noise..listen to too much of it and you sink into the mire of the rat race, ever running somewhere without a clear map forward..that will create intense disquiet and unease in your life..the wise person knows what to read, who to listen to and when to ignore the rumors (most of the time)..the wise person is calm because the wise person accesses knowledge and knows how to use it for betterment of life..responding to sensationalism and fear is "so yesterday" for the wise person..
slow down your life.. many people try to push, push and make for the exit even before the door is open (both in the metaphorical sense, and not)..consider all the times when a plane lands and everyone rushes to get off but all they do is end up standing in a queue..know when it's really important to hurry and when it's okay to slow down..you'll find that for most situations, it's okay to slow down..
hold in your reactions.. when you feel like you want to react to a situation, hold in the tears or shouting..think about how you feel before you let yourself react..once you start, it's easy to snowball into a bigger reaction than the situation is really worth..dont bottle your emotions but do think of a better way to express them or save them until you are in a better, safer place..
keep some perspective..
think about the situation that's happening around you and think about how it affects your life..is it really as big a deal as it seems or is it really only going to set you off a little..compare it to other problems that people might have, like getting cancer or having your house flood..is it really that big a deal? no? Then dont sweat it..learning to let the small things slide off of you can really make a huge difference in how you experience your life..
stop procrastinating.. procrastination is one of the biggest sources of stress in our lives..if you can learn to just get things done early or at least on time, you'll find yourself a lot more calm..this, of course, means focusing when things are supposed to be getting done and save distractions for later!
stay away from
drama.. drama with the people in our lives is another sources of serious stress..make sure to keep drama- causers out of your life..you should also work hard to not cause drama..work on communicating clearly and be patient with people..give people the benefit of the doubt..nd when people cause one too many dramatic situations with you, just make sure their in your life as little as possible..
calm down when it
matters.. if you're having a conflict with someone or you struggle to stay calm in the moment, you'll need to work on being a little more chill or at least find healthy ways to immediately release the feelings that you have..being more communicative and good about telling people how you feel when you feel that way is a great start..if you cant do that or it's not appropriate, try singing yourself a song in your head..
listen to music.. music has a very relaxing effect on how we think..if you're having a hard time calming down, try some calming music..avoid music with harsh sounds or fast tempos, even if it's music you really like, because this music can actually add to your stress! just listen to calm music when you're trying to calm down..
exercise.. exercise lets us work out energy and tension, allowing us to calm down significantly..it also makes us healthier and feel better generally..you dont have to go lift a bunch of weights or anything either! just do some squats or take a quick jog around the block!
play a game.. video games, board games, and card games are great for letting us give our brains a break..do whichever of these you have access to in order to calm yourself down..it works even better if you play with friends and family, because then you get to make each other laugh!
if you're by yourself, video games and games like solitaire are probably best..
if you're looking to play games with other people, a round of apples to apples always brings a smile to everyone's face!
play with kids or pets.. kids and pets are the best at knowing how to loosen up and have fun..if you're having trouble relaxing, find some kids or animals to hang out with..they'll appreciate a playmate and you'll get to join in on their joyful experience of life!
keep an open mind..closed, calculating minds are the root of ignorance..nothing changes if all minds are certain, remember that people once believed the world to be flat..
take a break and ask yourself what the older and wiser version of yourself would do..
if you are in a stressful situation and feel the need to be clam just simply walk away from the problem or take ten seconds to breath deeply and let all the thoughts sink in, before you can regret anything..