It can be easy to have a fun and romantic courtship period, but you may worry that your marriage won’t last once the initial spark has died down. However, if you want to live a happy married life, then you have to work on keeping the romance alive and on continuing to grow—both with your partner and as an individual. Though it’s not always easy, you can make your marriage thrive if you and your partner are willing to put in the effort.
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This can be very hard. Your spouse is someone who loves, honors and cherishes you more than anyone else. As such, they can also be the person who wounds you the deepest. This is natural and expected. At the same time, because of that bond, we tend to paint each other in the worst light. You got angry with me for being home late? You must be trying to hurt me! You didn’t acknowledge me when I got home? Wounded to the core! Instead of immediately assuming the worst, try turning it around and asking if you would deliberately hurt your spouse by doing the same thing. Then let it go.
Men, this is especially directed at you. Your wives really want you to listen to them. We aren’t saying “acknowledge that your wife is speaking while you’re busy watching football and actually not hearing anything at all.” Listen to her. Stop what you are doing, look at her, and hear what she is saying. Listen so intently that you can actually give feedback and tell her what she is talking about. She doesn’t want you to solve her problems (in fact, she’d probably prefer that you don’t), she just wants to know you care and will help if needed.
respect ur sp0use..if you want to have a healthy marriage, then you have t0 make your sp0use feel like your equal and take his feelings int0 acc0unt
whenever you’re making a decisi0n 0r just g0ing ab0ut your day..if you treat your sp0use like his opini0ns d0nt really matter 0r like you always have the final say, then
you’re b0und t0 have
an imbalance in your
marriage..make sure that you give your sp0use’s views the same seri0usness that you give your 0wn and that you take the time t0 listen to your sp0use and make him feel like you care...
w0rk t0 be kind, l0ving, and understanding t0
your sp0use..if you’re having a bad day and snap at him, make sure you apol0gize give him the basic respect he deserves instead 0f
thinking you can do
whatever you want
because you’re married..
you should also respect your sp0use’s privacy..d0nt go sno0ping
through his ph0ne 0r c0mputer if you expect him t0 feel respected...
w0rk to keep your
relati0nship in the present..if you care
about your spouse and want to have a healthy
and productive relationship, then you
should avoid getting
hung up on past mistakes you both made or keep
reminding your spouse
of his failures, instead,
work on reinforcing
enjoying your present
time together, and
thinking of all you have to look forward to..If you really care about your spouse, then you will be considerate of his feelings and won’t bring up the past just to get a reaction out of him...
th0ugh it’s not always easy to let go of the past, you shouldn’t bring it up
out of spite..remember that your spouse is a
living, breathing person too and that you shouldn’t bring up the past just to hurt him...
take the time to listen..listening is one of the best ways to be
considerate toward your spouse..don’t just zone out when your spouse is talking about his day or wait for him to finish talking so you can say what you want to say, make an effort to really hear him out and to care about what he’s telling you..when you’re having a real conversation, put away your phone, make eye contact, and be
considerate enough to
Of course, we all zone out from time to time..if that
happens during a conversation, don’t pretend like you’re following, apologize and figure out what your spouse was really saying...
ask your spouse questions to show that you really do care, you don’t want him to feel like he’s boring you...
sometimes, all your spouse needs after a
hard day is for someone to listen to him..you don’t have to feel compelled to
give advice all the time..
give priority to your
spouse..though you don’t need to make your life revolve completely around your spouse, you have to remember that
when you and your spouse decided to get
married, you wanted to be a priority in each
other’s lives..you should make sure to honor that decision and to make all of your big decisions with your spouse in mind, making sure that you try to do what’s best for you as well as for the person
you are married to...
if your family or friends aren’t getting along with
your spouse, then you shouldn’t try to jump to their defense unless your
spouse is being
sure you’re considerate of your spouse’s feelings
and that you give him the love and support he deserves...
if you want your marriage to be a happy one, then communication is key..you and your partner should be able to talk graciously to each
other about your thoughts, especially about things for the two of you to agree upon or do together..doing this daily helps foster communication between partners and to keep your marriage healthy and strong...
never say things in anger intentionally meaning to hurt your partner..cruel
words you said but didn't mean may be hard for your spouse to forget they can cause lasting
damage to your relationship..if you do end up saying something you
don’t mean, make sure you apologize...when arguing, keep to the subject and try not to personally attack your partner...
in order to have
strong communication, you have to be aware of
your partner’s thoughts and moods even before
you have a conversation..you should be able to read your partner’s body language and expression to be able to tell whether something is wrong and to feel comfortable
bringing it up...