International forum: Romance & Friendship - The Difference Between Lust, Love and Infatuation.
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18 Jun 2014 07:31

It’s not easy to define our feelings for others — especially romantic feelings, which can leave one in a haze! I really like to discuss the differences between lust and the real thing. Enjoy! Friends share your honest ideas here.

18 Jun 2014 07:33

In real life, here is the more common scenario: Guy meets girl, guy has fun with girl but wants to date others, girl just wants to date guy and tries to keep his attention, and girl may stay too long with a guy who isn’t right for her. Or if guy decides that he wants girl, fears and insecurities that surface from both individuals means that things aren’t the happily ever after portrayed in fairytales and movies. Placing unrealistic expectations from fairytales and movies onto your own love life when reality is different makes it hard to know if you’re in love. If you believe happily-ever-after means everything always flows wonderfully, and when your own relationship ebbs and flows, you may not realize you are actually in love with a wonderful guy. Additionally, having strong feelings for someone can make you think you’re in love when you’re actually in lust or infatuated. Here’s the important distinction between lust and infatuation:

18 Jun 2014 07:34

Lust is a physical emotion and reaction to someone else’s physical appearance. It’s when you’re sexually attracted to a guy. Lust tends to be short-lived and is more about immediate gratification.
Infatuation is an intense feeling. It happens when you are attracted to a guy’s appearance or attracted to him sexually. Infatuation happens early on and tends to become obsessive. When you’re infatuated, you see him through rose-colored glasses based on who you imagine him to be. You have put him on a pedestal and don’t acknowledge him for who he really is — good or bad. You may behave irrationally, become caught up in your feelings of what you think love is and aren’t living in reality.

18 Jun 2014 07:35

The intensity of feelings that come with lusting after someone or being infatuated may cause you to think you’re in love. When the guy you’re lusting after or are infatuated with doesn’t feel the same way, disappointment and heartache ensue. As a result, these lustful and infatuation experiences that don’t work out, will cause you to believe, “Love is hard, painful and uncertain.” The reality is love isn’t any of these things. If you’re experiencing love to be hard, painful and uncertain, and asking, “Am I in love?”, you are not in love.

18 Jun 2014 07:44

Thnx fr ur tips

18 Jun 2014 07:46

Love is a feeling.
Feelings are the most common way that people learn about and experience love. When it is truly love, you will feel good about yourself when you’re with and without him. As a result, you will also feel good about him. Since you’re only human, sometimes you may not feel so good about yourself or him. This doesn’t mean it’s not love. It just means that things are ebbing, and change and growth are taking place.
Love is an inside job.
We tend to look for love from someone else, not realizing that love is actually within. Love is about loving yourself first so that you are whole and not looking for someone else to complete you. The quality of your love life is a direct reflection on how much (or little) you care for and love yourself. The more you love yourself, the more you attract a guy who will love you just as much.

18 Jun 2014 07:47

Love is a way of being.
Love is experienced in the present moment. When you are present, negative thoughts and feelings fall away, making space for gratitude, kindness and loving energy. Being present with your partner lets you see him through fresh eyes and keeps you in love. Being present helps you express yourself more openly, building a deeper connection.
Love is a choice.
It’s easy to choose love when things are going really well. And when insecurities and fears come up, choosing love is where your greatest growth happens. Love is choosing we over me, unless you’re in an abusive relationship. It’s being considerate of your partner and making choices for the greater good of your relationship.
Love is built on a strong foundation.
Building a strong foundation of love happens by being the best version of you, taking the time to learn about each other, appreciating and accepting each other’s qualities, quirks and differences, being there through thick and thin, resolving differences in a respectful manner and letting him be who he is without trying to change him.

18 Jun 2014 07:57

Lust and infatuation are usually fleeting and short-lived and dont tent to turn into love

18 Jun 2014 08:40

Quote by Amit786
Lust is a physical emotion and reaction to someone else’s physical appearance. It’s when you’re sexually attracted to a guy. Lust tends to be short-lived and is more about immediate gratification.
Infatuation is an intense feeling. It happens when you are attracted to a guy’s appearance or attracted to him sexually. Infatuation happens early on and tends to become obsessive. When you’re infatuated, you see him through rose-colored glasses based on who you imagine him to be. You have put him on a pedestal and don’t acknowledge him for who he really is — good or bad. You may behave irrationally, become caught up in your feelings of what you think love is and aren’t living in reality.

I AM AGREE WITH U
KEEP IT UP!

18 Jun 2014 10:04
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18 Jun 2014 16:27

Awsome

19 Jun 2014 04:08
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11 Sep 2014 09:27

working until you're able to find some common ground. No argument can erase your commitment to one another, and you appreciate your partner speaking the truth even when it's painful. Even if you don't agree with your partner you will always take their side and defend them in front of your family and friends.

13 Oct 2014 17:51

Quote by christine123
working until you're able to find some common ground. No argument can erase your commitment to one another, and you appreciate your partner speaking the truth even when it's painful. Even if you don't agree with your partner you will always take their side and defend them in front of your family and friends.

thanks for your post friend