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11 Nov 2014 08:21

Is it good for a man to marry a lady who is 5years older than him? Give ur reasons if YES/NO

11 Nov 2014 15:49
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11 Nov 2014 15:58

There is no bad in that, but if there is respet and love . .

11 Nov 2014 16:53
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11 Nov 2014 17:05

Nothing wrong with it if they av the fear of God.bt the nature of women will always be factor.

11 Nov 2014 17:16

Notin bad, if d husband didnt tell anyone nobody will get 2 know about it

11 Nov 2014 18:02

Dis so called age barrier as cos alot of damages in some guys & ladies lives...wen a lady wil b tellin a guy dat dey can nt date nt2 talk of marry each dew 2 age difference btw dem both & mean while d guy might be her destine husband...unknwinly she'd sent away d joy of her marital home...so dere is no point in lookin @ age difference wen d love is dere in btw. Wen a guy older dan a girl wit 9yrs of age dated or got married, we dnt usually hear anytin...so y ar u complainin wen a lady older dan a guy wit jst 3-5yrs hook up.

11 Nov 2014 18:04

Yes,provided they are xtian and highly mature. Age is no big deal but the woman should be ready to be submissive in all ramification to the man.

11 Nov 2014 19:21

Hmmmmmmm,woman wi always be woman dere is notin bad in dt BUT dt woman MUST ready to sumit to her hubby I mean total sumissiv

11 Nov 2014 19:36

Age is jst a number,wat is important is love & undsting,4 me age can't hinder me 4rm marry a lady i love 4rm my heart

11 Nov 2014 20:05

It is quite easy 2 say age is just but numbers buh the woman shud b ready be 100% summissive 2 d younger husband without wich dia wud be serious problems. Above all dia shud b respect 4rm both.

11 Nov 2014 20:15

hmmmmmm girls

11 Nov 2014 20:16

hmmmmmm girls!!!!!!!!!!

11 Nov 2014 20:35

If a girl that is five year older than her husband I can cal that as a real bargain love bcos is not easy for a guy to marry a lady that is older than him if I were the girl I will do everything necessary possible to make the guy happy throughout the days of his life

11 Nov 2014 21:55

If I may say age is just a number if we come in terms of love,but age count wen their is no love,so I can boldly say that love all matter and not number.

11 Nov 2014 22:01

Its not a barrier nd i gives alot of xperience 4 example my ex is 4 years older dan me but durin our relationship i gained more xperience

11 Nov 2014 23:41

no b bad tin..na maturity Mata n undastandn ...d lady sud no hiz d head no Mata wat...bt first of all shi sud gv hI'm d rrespect den I gues dey wil b fine.

12 Nov 2014 08:35

For me der is nothing bad in it is an individual tin it depends on d angle we ar luking @ it d most important tin love once der is love age is just a noba.

12 Nov 2014 08:38

Love is sacrifice
According to the National Survey of Family
Growth, less than two-thirds of first marriages
will last up to 10 years. About 50 percent of
marriages will last less than 20 years.
Clayton Spencer
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According to the National Survey of Family
Growth, less than two-thirds of first marriages
(64 percent) will last up to 10 years. About 50
percent of marriages will last less than 20 years.
With one-third of marriages ending in divorce or
separation, it is no wonder no-fault divorce is
such a popular notion. Couples so easily end
and rewrite their love story with no admission of
guilt and a weak commitment. What happened
to the days when you would sacrifice every
moment of your day to be with your love? Do you
remember those days? Marriages can be saved
on that one principle, sacrifice.
Sacrifice is the essence of love; it is the
substance of it. The antonym to sacrifice is
selfishness. John Gottman, a researcher of couple
relationships identified four predictors of divorce
that he noted in couples experiencing conflict.
Gottman later named these predictors the Four
Horsemen of The Apocalypse. I like to think of
them as the four indicators of selfishness:
Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and
Stonewalling.
Criticism is the first of the horsemen. Gottman
explains in his book, "Raising an Emotionally
Intelligent Child," that criticism is not just
complaining it is attacking the value and
personality of another person. A critic is not
concerned with what the facts are or what
happened only how dumb, inconsiderate, or
mean their partner acts.
Contempt involves building a mental case
against one’s partner. They think about ways to
get even before anything has been said.
Defensiveness is the human response of when to
fire back insults in retaliation. Couples, at this
point, are looking to be justified rather than
discuss the core issue.
Lastly, Stonewalling is a significant step toward
divorce if left unchecked. Stonewalling involves
withdrawing emotionally and sometimes
physically from the relationship. When a partner
is speaking they may tune out their partner and
refuse to speak to each other.
The Four Horsemen are the perfect plan of
marital misery. If we are willing to go down this
road and indulge in selfish behavior, we are sure
to find a glorious pot of selfishness. What can
we do to avoid such destructive behavior? There
are many options, but the one-word answer is
sacrifice. When negative thoughts about our
partner enter our mind, say “I will avoid asking
about the messy kitchen because I love my
spouse and I don’t want them to feel bad."
If you frequently become critical about trivial
subjects, consider apologizing and thanking your
spouse for the ways they make life better. If you
are struggling to meet such minimum
requirements it is time to counsel with a trusted
professional. Meet with a bishop, therapist, or a
psychologist to develop a plan and a committed
effort to have a happy marriage. The great thing
about change, especially changing yourself, is
that the relationship can change. If the tension
in a relationship is the result of selfishness,
which often both partners contribute, it is not
an incurable disease as some would explain.
Sacrifice comes in an infinite variety of behaviors,
but if we can think of each act of sacrifice as
love and a nice addition to the foundation of our
lives called love, then it will be a worthy
investment. Take responsibility for your actions
in marriage, because our actions build the
foundation of our relationships.