How To Ratchet Up Your IQ Before Your Next Meeting, Interview Or Negotiation

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How To Ratchet Up Your IQ Before Your Next Meeting, Interview Or Negotiation
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The common advice is to apply for as many jobs as possible, but the strategy’s often a time-suck that spreads you too thin. It’s more important for job-seekers to focus on opportunities that will be a good fit for them.
We all get lazy with our language, especially in this texting age. But there’s no point in denying that it can hurt our prospects for success.To maximize your own intellectual and personal presence at your next meeting or
job interview, here are four words, phrases or burps that you need to eliminate gradually from your repertoire—listed in increasing order of difficulty to master:1. Um or uh
2. You know
3. Well
4. LikeWe all sense that, if we go to our next meeting or job interview and resist these terms, we’ll come across as more poised, more professional and even more intelligent than we would otherwise.John Quincy Adams is identified by some as our smartest president, with an
IQ
in the ballpark of 170. I suspect that, if he’d peppered his speeches with uh, ya know and his texts with omg, he’d have come across as a person with a mere IQ of, oh, 145.So the good news is that, with a few adjustments, you might hope to gain 25 points in others’ perception of your IQ. The sobering news is that, if you have an
IQ of about 125, it’s not as if it’ll suddenly seem like you’re lugging around 150 brainiac points; rather, it means that you’ll finally stop being perceived as someone who’s just average. But it’s a start.Let me be unsnobbishly clear that
IQ
is hardly the only thing that matters (as Daniel Goleman has noted in his work on “emotional intelligence”). Social skills, attitude and personal presence ultimately count for more in life than raw intellect, even if there’s no quantifiable score attached to them. But we get further good news by realizing that, as we cut back on the unnecessary clutter and clanging in our language, we stand to gain in these areas too.While I listed the terms above in order of difficulty, I’m not saying that any of them is easy to eliminate. In fact, you’ll feel as if you’re going crazy for a few months. But if you can survive bouts of impatience, OCD, cold sweats and any number of other traumas, you can develop a more commanding persona that will serve you well in your career and in life.All four of these speech blobs tend to serve as place-holding mumbles while you frantically scour your mental landscape for the right word or thought. They’re audible versions of the annoying buffering icon on your desktop. And you simply don’t need them.First, Take a Deep Breath: Language ZenIt’s crucial to drill into your head that it’s better to remain calmly silent while you mentally connect dots, retrieve information or plan your next comment.The best speakers give themselves permission to pause in mid-sentence, sometimes for surprisingly long periods, before starting up again. To calmly say nothing, instead of sputtering out a placeholder, shows that you are in command. It draws the listener in.This silent, confident pause is a zen moment, which can give birth to the wittiest and most clever improvisations. By contrast, the place-holding mumble is just a fruitless dissipation of nervous energy, the lingual equivalent of fidgeting or pacing in circles.Let’s examine the classic uh or um. While President Obama is known as a gifted orator, in unscripted conversation he uses uh with the frequency of a semi-automatic.But don’t beat yourself up if you find yourself using placeholders, even after you’ve promised to cut back on them. If you hear yourself using one, simply accept that as a sign that you need to take a deep breath and become more present to the moment. That is what will give you a more impressive aura in any personal encounter.Most people begin their sentences with well, as in, “Well, I don’t care what you think”– even on TV or film. To do so actually sounds natural. For that reason, you don’t have to eliminate every last well from your lingo; you just have to remember that using it is too frequently is another sign that you may be on auto-pilot and not fully present. You know falls into a similar category, and Well, ya know is a placeholder on steroids.What’s Not To Like?Like is the toughest placeholder to conquer, and yet it’s the dangerous one that most effectively can make a Kennedy sound like a Kardashian.As with the other placeholders, like can sometimes be replaced with silence. But like is trickier, because it oftentimes is a form of verbal and intellectual shorthand.Here are some examples:“I was like, no way” might mean “I told her, no way”; or…
“I was like, no way” might mean “I was thinking to myself, no way”
And “He was, like, 8 feet tall” usually means “He stood approximately 8 feet tall” (usually said with a flip sense of exaggeration).
In other words, you’ll have to put some more thought into what you’re saying if you’re not going to say like.That may seem hard. It is, because it involves moving your mental muscles in a way they’re not accustomed to. But the pain is worth the gain. You’ll come across as more commanding and impressive to that person who can hire or promote you. You’ll gradually begin to feel better about yourself.And, by staying in moment and collecting and assembling your thoughts in a calm manner, you might actually become smarter or more creative in your personal interactions.
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