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3 May 2016 05:38

Most abusers have very low self-esteem and are therefore easily insulted or upset.
Abuse is bred by fear – fear of being mocked or betrayed, emotional insecurity, anxiety, panic, and apprehension. It is a last ditch effort to exert control .
An abuser will always say the jealousy is a sign of love. He/she may question you about whom you have spoken to or seen during the day, may accuse you of flirting, or be jealous of time you spend with family, friends, children or hobbies which do not include him/her. As the jealousy progresses, he/she may call you frequently during the day or drop by unexpectedly. He may be unhappy about or refuse to let you work for fear you'll meet someone else, check the car mileage or ask friends to keep an eye on you. Jealousy is not proof of love, it is a sign of insecurity and possessiveness.
Controlling behaviour is often disguised or excused as concern. Concern for our loved ones to a certain extent is normal - trying to control their every move is not.

Edited by Amit786 / 3 May 2016 05:47
3 May 2016 14:52

true

3 May 2016 18:28

Quote by Amit786
Most abusers have very low self-esteem and are therefore easily insulted or upset.
Abuse is bred by fear – fear of being mocked or betrayed, emotional insecurity, anxiety, panic, and apprehension. It is a last ditch effort to exert control .
An abuser will always say the jealousy is a sign of love. He/she may question you about whom you have spoken to or seen during the day, may accuse you of flirting, or be jealous of time you spend with family, friends, children or hobbies which do not include him/her. As the jealousy progresses, he/she may call you frequently during the day or drop by unexpectedly. He may be unhappy about or refuse to let you work for fear you'll meet someone else, check the car mileage or ask friends to keep an eye on you. Jealousy is not proof of love, it is a sign of insecurity and possessiveness.
Controlling behaviour is often disguised or excused as concern. Concern for our loved ones to a certain extent is normal - trying to control their every move is not.

The first question, "Why do people abuse otherpeople?" has multiple answers. Some abusers learned to abuse from their parents. Their early history consisted of receiving abuse themselves and/or seeing others abused (one parent abusing the other or their sibling, etc.). As a consequence, abuse is the normal condition of life for these people. Such people internalized a particular relationship dynamic, namely the complementary roles of "abuser"

3 May 2016 18:54

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Quote by Amit786
Most abusers have very low self-esteem and are therefore easily insulted or upset.
Abuse is bred by fear – fear of being mocked or betrayed, emotional insecurity, anxiety, panic, and apprehension. It is a last ditch effort to exert control .
An abuser will always say the jealousy is a sign of love. He/she may question you about whom you have spoken to or seen during the day, may accuse you of flirting, or be jealous of time you spend with family, friends, children or hobbies which do not include him/her. As the jealousy progresses, he/she may call you frequently during the day or drop by unexpectedly. He may be unhappy about or refuse to let you work for fear you'll meet someone else, check the car mileage or ask friends to keep an eye on you. Jealousy is not proof of love, it is a sign of insecurity and possessiveness.
Controlling behaviour is often disguised or excused as concern. Concern for our loved ones to a certain extent is normal - trying to control their every move is not.

The first question, "Why do people abuse otherpeople?" has multiple answers. Some abusers learned to abuse from their parents. Their early history consisted of receiving abuse themselves and/or seeing others abused (one parent abusing the other or their sibling, etc.). As a consequence, abuse is the normal condition of life for these people. Such people internalized a particular relationship dynamic, namely the complementary roles of "abuser"

No matter where it’s learned, it’s not ok and it’s never justified.

3 May 2016 19:31

3 May 2016 19:38

4 May 2016 05:04

5 May 2016 03:50

Abuser janmjaat hote h

6 May 2016 06:53

Right...