Ghana forum: Literature - 25 Types Of Men You Should Never Consider Marriage With
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8 Nov 2015 01:49

1. A Man Who Still Adores His Ex
This man professes love to you 24/7 but he still
creates time for his EX in the disguise of ‘just friends’.
He hasn’t really gotten over her and he keeps
comparing you with her at the slightest chance he
gets. He can never truly love you like he claims
because he still has remnants of her in his system and
this will continue even after he marries you, so don’t
even say yes to him until you are sure he is
emotionally detoxified.
2. A Perfectionist
It is not just about him being meticulous about
everything like his clothes, food, house and properties.
It extends to how he feels about you. A perfectionist
would always try to make you perfect, and if it is not
working, he would wonder if you are the perfect
woman for him or if there is someone out there who
perfectly fits into his dream woman. These kind of
men are just not worthy of your attention or
commitment.
3. A Relationship Novice
Marrying a guy who has never dated anyone before
you is a whole lot of work as compared to the one
who had several girlfriends before settling down. He
would know practically nothing about handling a
woman or dealing with a relationship. So get ready to
sail the ship if you must marry him. On the other hand,
you must question the fact that he has been single all
the while, it could be a trap or he might be hiding
something from you.
4. An Abusive Man
Nigerian ladies know better on this one, but a number
of them still walk down the alter with an abusive man.
Whether physical or emotional, you do not have to put
up with an abusive man, you deserve better. Once you
notice that trait in him while dating, look for the
nearest exit and start plotting your escape map.
Statistics show that it starts with one slap and
continues till it gets to a stab and then murder.
Girlfriend, be wise and secure you future by letting
him go, a better man will come around sooner than
you think.
5. A Rebel
It’s confusing how most ladies get attracted to
gangsters and bad boys. There’s just something
mysterious and romantic about marrying a militant or
a Boko Haram member – he appears to offer you
security with his razz personality, but the truth is that
a societal rebel will also rebel in his marriage and
worse – produce rebellious kids. There are more
responsible men out there, a rebel is not worth your
love.
6. A Narcissist
Narcissus was an ancient Greek mythological figure
who was so beautiful that he fell in love with himself,
but because he couldn’t leave his own reflection in the
water, he eventually drowned. A person who is a
narcissist is so convinced of their own greatness that
they don’t see their weaknesses. Marrying a narcissist
is a very one-sided relationship. They’re always trying
to flaunt their own greatness often at the expense of
others. The marriage will usually be all about him and
with time you will become invisible.
7. A Control Freak
Everybody likes to have things their own way.
Unfortunately, because men are socialized to express
hostility and anger when they don’t get what they
want, a man who is a control freak can often become
intimidating and even abusive – physically or mentally.
Run for your dear life, you don’t need to be controlled
by a freak.
8. A Cheat
There is this myth most Nigerian women have that
when a cheating man gets married he stops cheating.
Well, the reverse is the case because he will only get
better in the act. It is a bad idea to consider such a
man for marriage. Cheats hardly change who they are,
no matter how many times they promise they will.
9. A Mummy’s Boy
Having a man who cares for his mum is adorable, but
when he begins to worship her, his wife-to-be is in for
a long thing. This kind of man can not do a thing
without consulting his beloved mother. She practically
tells him to jump and all he does is ask ‘high how?’ So
you better get used to hearing, “My mom doesn’t do
it that way.” And you better get used to his mother
being your marriage counselor, too.
10. A Pretty Guy
When you choose to marry not just a handsome man
but a pretty one, just get ready for regular drooling
from all the girls in your estate. This kind of man is
also very body conscious and might be the one
ordering for the latest Zaron lip balm and the latest
J’lo perfume. You would have a lot to put up with if
you consider this kind of man for marriage.

8 Nov 2015 01:56

11. A Pushover
As mentioned before, everybody likes to have their
own way. So when you find a guy who lets you do
whatever you want and doesn’t complain about it, you
want to grab him up. But after a while you’ll find
yourself making all the decisions. And then you’ll find
yourself complaining because he doesn’t pull his own
weight.
12. The Manly Man
This guy talks about sports, beer and hunting all the
time. He doesn’t help out in the kitchen and would not
help out with changing diapers as well. He is also not
romantic and is likely to forget Valentine’s Day or your
wedding anniversary. Don’t get it wrong, he shouldn’t
be weak or too strong – average is the best.
13. The Fitness Freak
Who doesn’t want a guy with well chiseled abs and
nice arms? But a man who spends quality time in the
gym will have no time for his family – it’s all about
how great he looks in his shirts. Don’t forget that his
hot body will also attract a lot of attention from girls
and even married women.
14. A Commitment-Phobe
Just like there are some women who have issues with
committing to anything, we also have men who are
this way. If he is afraid of commitment then it is no
use convincing him that committing to a marriage is a
good idea. And if he finally decides to knuckle down
and commit, watch out for loop holes – he might not
be as committed as he says he is. If he used to be a
commitment-phobe, he may still be.
15. A Dishonest Man
He is a liar, a deceiver, and has no integrity. Two
things will happen if you marry such a man – you will
start lying like him and will give birth to kids with
worse characters. Eventually, all these will lead
to heartbreak.
16. The Addict
If you suspect he might be an alcohol, cigarettes,
drugs, sex, etc addict, then it is better to save
yourself future pain and unhappiness by looking for
someone else. Dating an addict automatically puts
you and your family in second place and also at risk of
abuse.
17. A Nag
Who says men don’t nag? Well you haven’t met this
kind of man and pray you never do. A male nag is even
worse than its female counterpart because he nags
and vents his anger on everyone in the house. You
don’t want to be around when he is exhibiting this
trait.
18. The I-know-more-than-you
It’s a good thing to marry a man with brains but be
careful if you don’t have half the kind of brain that he
has or his brains. He will always tell you that he knows
more than you, you are just a woman – what do you
know. Considering marriage with this kind of man will
involve your self-esteem being battered at every
point, even you are right and he is wrong. Remember,
nothing is more annoying than being told you are
wrong when you know you are right.
19. A Stingy Man
A man who finds it difficult to be generous with his
material possessions, even when he has more than
enough to share, might not be the best family man.
Marriage involves a lot of sharing and if he is too self
obsessed to see the needs of someone else, that
union would end up being one-sided.
20. A Polygamist
Most African men believe in polygamy, although some
who grew up in such homes will not want a repeat
experience. However, if he says he would love to
have a second wife while he is still dating you, truth is,
he is openly saying he would cheat on you. You might
be lucky not to have a mate, but you will surely have
many rivals who he will be cheating with. If he is
unfaithful during courtship he will be during marriage.
21. An Unambitious Man
If a guy is older than 35 and he is still unsure about
what his dream job is, or is not currently working or
looking for a job, you better question that. Nigerian
men like to settle their careers before proposing,
don’t forget that, yours shouldn’t be different. A man
is the leader of his family, and should know where he
is headed, in order to lead right.
22. An Insecure Man
Trust is very important in a relationship and even
more crucial in marriage. If he is always suspicious of
every single person that comes close to you, then
think twice about making him your life partner. A
marriage would not last long if one partner
consistently suspects the other of being unfaithful.
23. A Disrespectful Man
A man who is disrespectful to you or even everyone in
general would not make a good husband. Respect is
very important in every relationship and if you
constantly feel disrespected, then it certainly would
not lead to a happy home.
24. The Boss Man
Only an insecure man would boss you around. He
wants to know where you are at every time and who
you are speaking with on the phone. He can even go
as far as confirming you are in a said place, and if you
are not, all hell would be let loose. You don’t need this
kind . . . simply move on.
25. A Secretive Man
Men are generally known to talk less than women and
as such can keep secrets from their spouses for a very
long time. Not to forget also that it takes a lot of
energy to conceal something from someone you claim
to love. A man who is very secretive may develop a
wicked heart over time, and you don’t need to be
shocked with bad news of what he did five years ago.
This kind of man can have a kid outside, and make
sure you never get to know about it. He may even be
into an illegal business and you will only know when
the police comes for both of you. If he is not willing to
share some heart to heart issues with you, especially
about his past and present, do not consider walking
down the altar with him.

10 Nov 2015 21:37

Nyce tips. Thnx

12 Nov 2015 07:50

Powerful

12 Nov 2015 07:57

This is a wow! You have stolen my attention completely..even putting some of the right path. We are going to do few cross-checks. Thanks

13 Nov 2015 10:28

yea u r telling d truth

16 Nov 2015 14:46

Dats a fact, I was a victim Bt NW am free, after I left de relationship.

19 Nov 2015 09:33

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