Ghana forum: Romance & Friendship - AS A CHRISTIAN DO U NEED TO HAVE A GIRLFRIEND
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28 Mar 2015 11:31

is it good as a christian to have a girlfriend?

30 Mar 2015 11:03

A girlfriend is a female friend, often specifying a
regular female companion with whom one is
romantically and/or sexually involved. This is
normally a short-term committed relationship,
where other titles (e.g. wife, partner ) are more
commonly used for long-term committed
relationships. A girlfriend can also be called an
admirer, beau, suitor and sweetheart. so my dear Frnd as a serious Christian who is not ready to marry no Girlfriend but rather Sister if female frndship

30 Mar 2015 11:10

Is it wrong to have a
boyfriend/girlfriend?
The answer to this question depends upon the age
of the one who asks it. The modern visual media,
like television, have influenced the thinking pattern
of our children. So many small boys and girls are
tempted to do as television or videos suggest / to
have their own special lovers too soon.
Normally boys and girls up to the age of 12 or 13
years want to spend their time with members of
their own sex. When they become older they
become attracted to members of the opposite sex.
Sometimes they "fall in love" with a certain boy or
girl. Unfortunately "love" at too young an age is
usually not true love and does not last long. After
some weeks or months they no longer feel
attracted to each other. It is not wrong to get these
feelings, but such young children must not make
the mistake of thinking that their whole life
depends upon it. Sometimes, when such a
relationship is broken the disappointed one says: "I
cannot live without him/her." This is, of course,
not true.
Sometimes this "love" is mere sexual attraction
which ends in sin / sexual intercourse outside
marriage.
It is good for a Christian boy or girl to learn how
to communicate properly with members of the
opposite sex. But they should try and not choose
a special girl or boy when they are still too young.
Some make the mistake of starting a friendship
where the boy will say: "I love you ... you are the
only one in my life ... I will love you forever ..." Of
course in some instances it may work out. But the
ultimate outcome of such passionate love is in
most cases a broken relationship, or a marriage
where both are too young. And most of such
marriages are usually unhappy. Research in the
field of social science has proved this over and
over.
So the answer to the question above is "yes" when
the boy and girl have reached maturity. That is
about the age of about 23-25 for the young man
and 19-20 for the girl. At that age they are more
able to disagree without becoming angry, they are
less self ish, they are more willing to acknowledge
that they have done something wrong to one
another, they know more about personal
responsibility. A Christian young man who
courts a girl with the intention of marrying her,
must make sure that his girlfriend is a true
Christian and vise versa.
Sometimes young African people ask this question
against the background of cultural customs. Their
custom tells them that their parents or families
must make the choice regarding a life partner for
their son. Young people of today want to marry the
one they love. Christian young people have
problems when their families want them to marry a
boy or girl who is an unbeliever. They know it is
against God's will (2 Corinthians 6:14-15). We do
not despise cultural customs. But we are
compelled to teach Christ ians that the true "God-
given" marriage is the marriage of a Christian man
with a Christian girl. The "cement" that binds them
together is true love which is a gift of God. If they
are forced into a cultural marriage without God's
approval there is no guarantee that it will be a
blessed and happy one.

31 Mar 2015 02:05

Yes u can have a girlfriend bt nt a girllover.

8 Apr 2015 01:24

Quote by PHILIMON
Yes u can have a girlfriend bt nt a girllover.

girlfriend means having a sexual relations with the person